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Posted by Barry on Nov 19, 2010

Saboteurs!

Working out is HARD!  Eating really, really healthy is HARD!  But guess what!  Those aren’t the only obstacles you will face on your fitness journey.  One of the most frustrating obstacles is the “Saboteurs” (people who resist the change you are trying to make in your life).  They come in many forms, and can be casual acquaintances, co-workers, and even your close family members.  Usually, the resistance comes in the following forms:

“Come on, ONE cheat meal isn’t going to hurt you.”

“What?  Are you going to work out every single day for the rest of your life without ever skipping a day?”

“Are you never going to eat a piece of cake again?  What about your birthday?”

“You are looking too skinny.”

“You are pushing it too hard and you are just going to burn out and quit.  Take it easy.”

“I’m worried that you are becoming obsessed with working out.”

“Spending 1 hour per day working out isn’t practical for the long term.  We don’t have time for that kind of time commitment.” (usually said by someone who spends at least 3 or 4 hours watching TV every day!)

“We can’t ever go out to eat and just have fun because you are worried about eating healthy all the time.”

Have you heard these yet?  I’ve heard them all!  It’s frustrating, because believe me, I’d love to pig out on Buffalo Wings with the rest of my co-workers, but to sit there and eat my chicken / apple / carrots while they stuff fried wings in their mouth is hard.  It’s also annoying that the entire time they say things like “Are you still not eating?“, as if chicken, fruit, and veggies don’t count as food because they aren’t deep fried!

And to be called “too skinny” by people I know makes me crazy! Since when is 180 pounds for a 6 foot guy “too skinny”?  People who have seen my “after” pictures don’t call me skinny!  They call me RIPPED!!  The only people who call me skinny are the people who knew the fat me for the last 8 years!  The real issue is that I’ve made a change and I’m not fat anymore.  And for many, when you or I become very fit, it threatens them!  It makes them more sensitive to their own fitness / nutrition / weight issues.  Some will be motivated by our transformation, but many would rather try to pull us back down where we were in order to feel better about themselves.

Be ready for it!  It’s the hardest part of making this change.  The resistance you’ll face can knock you off track if you aren’t ready to meet it head on.  I’ve learned how to respond to each of the above statements, and you’ll need to also!  If saboteurs are bringing you down, check in here, e-mail me, or read some success stories on the P90X discussion boards.  Focus on the positive.  Keep your eyes on the prize.  Don’t listen to saboteurs.  Their negative attitude is their problem, not yours!

Something I would advise you all to do is to write down your goals, including the “WHY“.  Why did you decide to start this fitness program?  What things do you want to change about your body / mind / attitude / energy level / habits during these 90 days?  When others bring you down, look at your “WHY“.  You started this journey not out of convenience or because you thought it would be easy.  You had reasons … GOOD ONES!  Your “WHY” statements will outweigh any negative talk you hear from others.

My “WHY” included helping my son and setting the right example for my kids, changing our eating habits as my wife was diagnosed “pre-diabetic” (she is not anymore thanks to P90X!), having more energy, and treating my body like it should be.  These are a lot more important to me than someone at work saying I look “too skinny”!  Keep Bringing It!!!!

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6 comments
Jim
Jim

I've had negative comments from people too. I think some just don't want you to better yourself beyond where they are.

Chris M
Chris M

Barry, Chris M from teamripped. Great Post. So True. My wife and I are actually waiting for the you look to skinny comment or the, "I'm just worried about you" comment referring to an eating disorder b/c we are not pigging out. We know it's coming. Keep brining it. Chris M

David A
David A

Enjoyed the post! Thanks

Barry
Barry

That is why I wrote the article as it was surprising to me that even some family and friends would be negative influences instead of cheering you on so I wanted others to be aware of it too.

Barry
Barry

I was truly surprised at how many people make the comments and although have the best intentions are really trying to stop you or make themselves feel better by pulling you down. Stay strong! Barry

Barry
Barry

Thanks for the feedback. We all have obstacles that try to stop us from achieving our goals!